Self-Acknowledgment is Great Self Care!
by Karen Cappello, PCC, BCC
When I became a coach, I learned to practice self-acknowledgment and self-appreciation. This simple practice has changed my life. Before this, I learned the opposite, as most of us do. I was told that it was not humble to acknowledge oneself – that I would get a big head, or that it was being arrogant to appreciate myself.
Now, self-acknowledgment is a huge part of my self-care. I acknowledge myself for my values, my purpose, and my gifts and talents. I acknowledge my learning, my clarity, and my courage in taking risks.
I’ve discovered that when I appreciate and acknowledge myself, I am able to love others better. I am able to listen to others and be of service to them. Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are like oxygen. And I’ll bet you have heard that when there is a change in cabin pressure on a plane, you need to put on your own oxygen mask first!
When I acknowledge myself first, then it is so easy to acknowledge others. When I am acknowledging myself, it is easier to stay out of judgment – both of myself and others. Daily self-acknowledgment is to the creative mind what daily bicep curls are to the arm. It strengthens and supports me and everyone around me.
Practice acknowledging yourself daily. Here are some simple ways to start:
- Each evening, list all the ways in which you have lived out your values and life purpose that day.
- Look for ways that you have given your unique gifts to the world, and celebrate that.
- When learning a new skill, acknowledge each step of the journey.
- When someone else acknowledges you, let it really sink in.
- Look for ways you are being courageous, and reward yourself for taking a chance, whether it works out the way you planned it or not.
I love this quote from A Course in Miracles:
“What you perceive in others, you are strengthening in yourself.”
The opposite is true, too: what you strengthen in yourself is what you will perceive in others. So, go ahead and acknowledge yourself, even though it might feel awkward at first. That self-acknowledgment will support you well in your work and in your life!
About the Author:
Karen Cappello, PCC, BCC 6890 E. Sunrise Drive, Suite 120–200 Tucson, Arizona 85750 (520) 299-0001 firstname.lastname@example.org www.karencappello.com
Karen Cappello is a certified coach, motivational speaker, coach trainer and communication specialist who works with executives and entrepreneurs to enhance communication skills and improve business results.