Biography
Loneliness is killing us accomplished Black men, and I’m here to do something about it. I’m on an impossible mission to end loneliness for 8 billion people by treating the source, not the symptom. One person at a time, one conversation at a time.
Accomplished Black Man, you’ve accomplished a lot. You know what it’s like to be the only Black man in the room…again. I do too. In most spaces and places, I was one of the only Black men in the room. It was really lonely. Extremely lonely.
There’s the loneliness of being accomplished. There’s the loneliness of being Black in a White world. There’s the loneliness of being a man, taught to carry all of it alone.
My work includes conversations about being the only Black man in the room…again, not wanting to scare the White people, carrying the weight of representation, working 10x as hard, code-switching to get ahead, speaking up when it could cost you later, not feeling Black enough or White enough, and asking, “Where are my people?”
As responsibility grows, conversational freedom can shrink. Having people to talk to is different from having people you can talk to.
For 24 years, I hid that I was gay. I was afraid my career would be impacted. I was afraid I would be alone. I didn’t believe I belonged anywhere. I am Black, accomplished, gay, and Christian. I hold all four without apology.
I thought, “I’m going to create the thing I wish I had.” I wanted to create a space where I could be shoulder to shoulder with my brothers. But not just any brothers, my accomplished brothers.
My work is identity-level work. I’m in the courage business. I help accomplished Black men remember who they are and live it.
I speak the truth other people avoid. I see the person first, then the problem. Courage requires movement. I don’t see your performance. I see you.
Together, we tell the truth about the cost, see new possibilities, and take new action so you can move from loneliness to legacy. Legacy is changing what’s possible for us, for the people we love, and for the brothers coming after us.
You’re not broken. You’re ready.